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Personal Development (L5)A couple of Self-esteem StoriesYip sir ( ) 34What is self-esteem???What is Self-esteem 1. The way you feel about yourself 2. How much you like yourself 3. How valuable a person you think you are 4. How competent you think you are5 61

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Self Esteem DefinitionHow much we feel we are worth, the value we assign to ourselves “Esteem” means to appreciate the value or worth of yourself Self-esteem is defined as “the awareness of good possessed by the self, …” (Campbell, 1984) “appreciating one’s own worth and importance, and having the character to be accountable for oneself and to act responsibly toward others.”7Self-esteem is1. a state of mind 2. you feel and think about yourself and others; 3. be defined as your internal belief system and how you experience life externally. 4. having a positive sense of your inherent worth as a person.8Components of Self EsteemWe are capable We are significant in that we matter to others We are powerful and have some say in what we do We are unique and worthwhile in our own right9自尊感 ─ 自己對自己的主觀感覺1. 欣賞自己的價值與重要性，並且擁有一種 相信自己與對人負責的個性 2. 一種自信心與對自己感到滿意的感覺 3. 自觀我(Perceived self) 與理想我(Ideal self) 之協調10自尊感的三個基本特點1. 2. 3.不是與生俱來 可在成長中逐步建立 不同的人有不同程度的自尊感Differences between High and Low Self-esteems11122

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Differences in self-concept by self-esteem High Self-esteem (HSE)Describe themselves positively and are clear. They feel that they have more compartments /strengthsApproach to Achievement Situations1.Low Self-esteem (LSE)Describe themselves negatively and are less clear. They feel that they have less compartments /strengthsHigh self-esteemConfident about succeeding in task. Not overly concerned with failing. Look at setting as an opportunity to do well.2.Low self-esteemConsiderable uncertainty, Doubt their positive attributes, Expect negative attributes. Concerned about failing, may even prepare for failure.Positive belief in self concept is vital to develop and maintain self esteem1314After Success1.After Failure1. High self-esteemSurprised because doesn’t fit into their self perception. Work harder to get success next time.High self-esteemAttribute success to ability. Believe/feel good about positive feedback. Believe positive feedback. Feel in control of outcomes. Motivated to spend time practising after success.2.Low self-esteemAffective responses positive, but cognitive responses negative and confused. Surprised because success is inconsistent with self concept. Discrepancy between what they thought would happen and what occurred produces negative affect. Motivated to search for explanation, attribute success to external causes. Feel pressure after success2. Low self-esteemNot surprised, because consistent with their past experiences. Decrease motivation because they feel they will fail again. Withdraw from tasks.1516BeingTheory of Self-EsteemAchievementCarl RogersRecognitionCarl Rogers’ Theory of Self-esteem17 183

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1. Appreciation and recognition from others, especially significant others when you are young 2. Needs for recognition unmet → continuing seek for compensation when you grow up → distortion19Entering an independent stage → grounding on achievement201. Appreciate the inner worth of an individual 2. Positive sense of existence 3. Ability to savor life21Esteem BuildersBorba, Michele (1989)22High Self-esteemAffiliation 歸屬感 - belonging & connectedness Competence 成功感 - feeling of successHigh Self-esteemAffiliation 歸屬感 - belonging & connectedness Competence 成功感 - feeling of successSelfhood 獨特感 - self conceptMission 方向感 - purpose and responsibilitySelfhood 獨特感 - self conceptMission 方向感 - purpose and responsibilitySecurity 安全感 - ease and trust23Security 安全感 - ease and trust244

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WHO WEARS WHAT MASK?1. Low self-esteem can destroy a person’s ability to think, feel or act in a positive way. 2. Hiding behind a mask may become a common way to cover up true feelings. 3. You need to be able to identify which mask you wear, recognize the masks other people wear and emphasize the need to trust what we have inside (self-esteem), not depend on external affirmation (other esteem).25Building Security1. Think about people with whom relate daily (significant others, friends, peers) 2. List (first names only) any people who wear the following masks. Include yourself when appropriate.26The Taskaholic:One who runs from task to task, unable to rest. One who constantly seeks respect and admiration from others but who is rarely satisfied with what he or she has. Names:1._______ 2. _______ 3. _______The Nice Guy:He/She is always there with a shoulder to cry on, to offer a helping hand or become the problem solver. His person may be caring for others out of need to be accepted. He/She may put far too much energy into relationships that can drain one’s energy and lower self-esteem.Names:1._______ 2. _______ 3. _______2728The Poor Me:A person who constantly talks about problems, poor health or negative family and school issues. He/She needs to draw attention to unpleasant events in order to get attention. Names:1._______ 2. _______ 3. _______The Trouble Maker:A person you can depend on for disagreeing with you about most everything. This person wants to be liked but the result is self-destructive. Names: 1._______ 2. _______ 3. _______29305

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The Perfectionist:A person who is always striving to be the best; to attain excellence in all that he/she does. One who is involved in constant comparison with others. Names:1._______ 2. _______ 3. _______Other Masks:People who are always feeling tired, sick or who have a weak handshake and indirect eye contact. People who constantly feel depressed, anxious or withdrawn. People who are easily angered or always seem to project negativ …… 此处隐藏：6285字，全部文档内容请下载后查看。喜欢就下载吧 ……